South Africa is a beautiful country with diverse cultures. It’s a country that respects people’s beliefs and their cultures. That includes even legalising polygamy. A man who wants to marry as many women as he wishes is allowed to do so. That means adults who can consent and are committed to such a marriage.
Just like any other marriage, a polygamous marriage also has its drawbacks. But it looks like in the polygamous relationships the problems are many, especially for women, who are known for being loving and caring creatures. A lot of them don’t have a problem of sharing what they have with others
. As the saying goes, sharing is caring. They can share everything they have but not a partner. But in a polygamous marriage, they are forced to share one thing, a man. And in most cases it’s a problem to these women as they compete with one another to win their husband’s love and attention.
SABC1’s number one favourite soapie, Generations, shows how a polygamous marriage can cause tension in the house. Khethiwe, played by Winnie Modise who is Khaphela’s second wife, doesn’t get along with her sister-wife, Sarah, played by Delisile Malinga.
These two women are always at each other’s throats about who is the perfect wife for Khaphela, played by Mike Mvelase.
Polygamy, also known for being beneficial when it comes to the distribution of work among a group of women rather than all the work being being expected of one woman, does not seem to be working in the Ngcobo family. Sarah, who is the stay-at-home first wife seems to be doing all the chores in the house and also taking care of her husband.
She is also a baby sitter for her sister-wife, Khethiwe, who works in a big advertising company. Khethiwe messed up when she slept with another man. But her husband forgave her and took her out for a romantic dinner at a hotel leaving his first wife at home without telling her where he was.
This caused more tension between the two wives. Watch Generations tonight on SABC1 as the two wives keep on competing for their husband’s attention. • Generations on SABC1 at 8pm